I talked to couples therapist and Internal Family Systems (IFS) trainer Toni Herbine-Blank about how couples can create lasting intimacy in a relationship.
Here are a couple of tidbits from the podcast:
You can tell your partner the truth, without harming them
You can embrace the differences in your relationship, instead of feeling threatened by them
You can resolve conflict by taking the step of learning about yourself first
Being Calm during a disagreement doesn’t mean going numb
Toni’s podcast is rich with ideas for couples. She’s co-authored a book about her curriculum, Intimacy from the Inside Out: Courage and Compassion in Couple Therapyalong with her coauthors Donna M. Kerpelman and Martha Sweezy. It’s a textbook geared more toward other therapists, but if you’re serious about learning Intimacy from the Inside Out I recommend it.